Author: wonderoak
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I Just Want Friends I Can Do Life With
(Love Amy) When I was young, my parents had this group of families they did nearly everything with. The parents would play games, or talk, or watch a movie in one room and the kids would hang out in the other room. I’m sure we ate, but honestly, I have a hard time remembering that […]
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Stay in your lane.
Something I’m learning right now (and it’s not always easy) is that if someone is upset with me, it’s not always my job to fix it. If I’ve hurt someone and they approach me about it, I will always do my best to make it right. But if I hear whisperings that someone is bothered, […]
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Being a Good Friend DOESN’T mean:
Hey, I know you want to be a good friend. I know it’s something you think about and weighs heavy on your heart, especially when your friend is going through something hard. I also know that sometimes you take on too much. Sometimes you try and carry things that aren’t yours to carry. Sometimes you […]
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This Friendship Didn’t Happen by Accident
If you see me and a friend out in public having a good time, please know this friendship didn’t happen by accident. I know it looks simple. I know it looks comfortable. I know it looks easy. And it is all those things, but only because we’ve done the work. Only because we’ve fought for […]
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You Value Deep Friendship When You’ve Experienced Shallow Friendship.
You recognize when someone loves you for you, when you’ve been loved conditionally and with strings attached. You know what it is to be able to relax and exhale, when you’ve had to perform in order to “belong”. You cherish mutual friendship, when you’ve been in relationships where you were the only giver and they […]
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This One is for the Givers:
This ones for the givers. The ones who show up and again and again, (even when it’s hard, and even when it’s inconvenient.The ones who love and serve in ways that often goes unseen and unappreciated. The ones who’ve loved hard and with their whole hearts – and sometimes that’s meant being burned. The ones […]
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Friendships Need Maintenance
Don’t forget friendships need maintenance. You’re not just getting a coffee, you’re connecting hearts. You’re not just texting, you’re being a part of each other’s lives. You’re not just spending money on that trip, you’re investing in your connection. You’re not just showing up for a party, you’re letting them know they matter. You’re not […]
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The Highest Honor of Friendship
The highest honor of friendship isn’t getting invited to “that party” or out on a girls weekend. It’s not clinking champagne glasses at fancy brunches or wearing matching shirts on a beach in Florida. That all is nice and fun and good and special, but it’s not what it’s about, not at all. The real […]
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PSA: Husbands, I know what your wife wants for Mother’s Day.
Listen, this is just my opinion (but it’s right). I know what your wife wants for mothers day. Ready? *Drum roll* Whatever it is she told you. I know, I know, it seems too simple, but, just trust me: If your wife tells you what she wants: get. her. that. If she says she wants […]
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Reasons a mom says she doesn’t want “anything” for Mother’s Day
Reasons she says she doesn’t want anything for mother’s day: 1. She doesn’t want to think of what you should get her for Mother’s Day. She wants you to think of what you should get her for Mother’s Day. She is tired, her brain is mush. She would like “not thinking” in addition to whatever […]