Dear Daughters, Get tattoos if you want…

I came across some horse-crappery today. It was an article called Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins Without Tattoos. The title alone makes me vacillate between puking in my mouth, and wanting to run in to my street and scream a Katy Perry song.

I don’t have any tattoos, but I love them and now I guess I’m going to schedule one.


And it’s definitely not just about tattoos or people being picky about who they marry (that’s totally fine) it’s about trying to seek the approval of an entire gender by squashing your own identity. To totally understand you have to read the article (which I don’t recommend) but it goes on to say things like that the debt referred to is specifically college debt – and women should remain uneducated because they’re just going to keep the home anyway.


Thankfully I now have an article to share with my daughters to explain to them the kind of B.S. they should never put up with, right before we light said article on fire and do a celebratory dance around it.

Dear Girls,

#1. You don’t need a husband. If you decide to marry, marry someone who is your equal, not someone who is so insecure they need you to be small so they can feel big.

#2. Don’t ever try and become what someone else wants. You be you be you.

#3. You wear whatever you damn well please. No, it’s not your responsibility to make boys control themselves (insert giant eye roll). Dress in a way that honors who you are.

#4. Get tattoos and piercings if you want, heck let’s get them together.

#5. Make wise decisions for yourself. You don’t need to be “taught” or mansplained to, that’s called CONTROLLING (I think I just puked in my mouth again).

#6. Your job is to be YOU and to shine the brightest version of yourself. Burn bright, burn wild, burn fierce and make no apologies for the path you choose to take.

.#7. Never ever marry a man like this.

I read a comment that suggested men like this purchase a Golden Retriever. Yes, because I think what they’re looking for is a pet not a wife.

Rant over.

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9 responses to “Dear Daughters, Get tattoos if you want…”

  1. I don’t think the author of that trash is worthy of a Golden Retriever either. What a nightmare he must be!

  2. Stephanie Szewczyk Avatar
    Stephanie Szewczyk

    I’m puking in my mouth over this comment from that insanely stupid article….”“The husband will need to take years teaching his wife the correct way to act, think, and live since college taught them every possible way that is wrong.” (Sadly, most young Christian women wouldn’t listen to their husbands since they’ve not been taught to live in submission to their husbands.” Say the FUCK what????? What world are these people living in!!?? I’m with you…just do you, girls! God made you perfect just the way you are so rock it out!!

  3. I know It’s horrible

  4. Thank you!!!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

    I grew up in circles that praise that woman and believe every word that’s said in the article. (Puke) I am so grateful to be free of it! I’m also so so grateful that sooo many people can see the BS and call it out!
    Thank you for teaching women how to live in real Freedom!

  5. Oh my god, I’m having flashbacks of my ex. It’s freaky. I got a tattoo six months after my dad died and about 2 years later, I decided I wanted another tattoo. My boyfriend at the time said, “No. You’re not. You don’t need it.” I ended up going on vacation back home and got one anyway and then I dumped him. 🙄

  6. juliemcdonald53 Avatar

    As always – I love the way you think! I once responded to a “no tattoo” dress code policy by getting another one on my other leg! But don’t let me ramble on about dress codes! Keep up the GREAT work. Keep pushing. Keep sharing your thoughts with the rest of us — I am inspired every time!

  7. I absolutely love everything about this post. But I really want to point out the part where you said to “wear whatever you damn well please”. I am so sick of people saying that girls get in trouble because of what they wear. F that. I have never heard someone ‘blame’ a guy for wearing his stupid pants around his butt cheeks and no shirt. Everyone should be able to wear what they feel comfortable in and still feel safe.

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