I came across some horse-crappery today. It was an article called Men Prefer Debt-Free Virgins Without Tattoos. The title alone makes me vacillate between puking in my mouth, and wanting to run in to my street and scream a Katy Perry song.
I don’t have any tattoos, but I love them and now I guess I’m going to schedule one.
THIS IS NOT OKAY.
And it’s definitely not just about tattoos or people being picky about who they marry (that’s totally fine) it’s about trying to seek the approval of an entire gender by squashing your own identity. To totally understand you have to read the article (which I don’t recommend) but it goes on to say things like that the debt referred to is specifically college debt – and women should remain uneducated because they’re just going to keep the home anyway.
Thankfully I now have an article to share with my daughters to explain to them the kind of B.S. they should never put up with, right before we light said article on fire and do a celebratory dance around it.
#1. You don’t need a husband. If you decide to marry, marry someone who is your equal, not someone who is so insecure they need you to be small so they can feel big.
#2. Don’t ever try and become what someone else wants. You be you be you.
#3. You wear whatever you damn well please. No, it’s not your responsibility to make boys control themselves (insert giant eye roll). Dress in a way that honors who you are.
#4. Get tattoos and piercings if you want, heck let’s get them together.
#5. Make wise decisions for yourself. You don’t need to be “taught” or mansplained to, that’s called CONTROLLING (I think I just puked in my mouth again).
#6. Your job is to be YOU and to shine the brightest version of yourself. Burn bright, burn wild, burn fierce and make no apologies for the path you choose to take.
.#7. Never ever marry a man like this.
I read a comment that suggested men like this purchase a Golden Retriever. Yes, because I think what they’re looking for is a pet not a wife.