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When my kids stopped needing me so much.
My kids are growing up. My oldest is a preteen and my littlest is four…and suddenly they don’t need me as much anymore. They need me, but not like they used to. They don’t need me to rock them to sleep, or to swaddle them. They don’t need me to nurse them, or help to…
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My kid was rude, and I’m sorry.
My kid was rude and I’m sorry. We have four kids who are as different from each other as pad thai and meatballs. Each one of them has strengths, and each one of them has characteristics that are harder to handle. For instance one of them has a cry that is louder than a Harley…
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Dear Kids, You don’t ever have to pretend…
Dear Kids, The world has gotten more full of pressure to pretend than ever. Social media is overflowing with perfectly poised photos and empty invitations into an idealistic life. Listen to me dear ones; it is EMPTY. No one, ever, in the history of all the world has had a perfect life. Everyone has pain,…
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Dear Kids, I am with you no matter what
Dear Kids, I am with you. I was with you when you were in my belly. I was swollen, heavy, tired, and I felt like a moose, but I was with you. I was with you in the seconds, the minutes, and the hours of labor, when I truly didn’t think I could go on.…
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How to Get Rid of Mom Guilt (You are not alone)
There is a magical unicorn mother that was invented by the internet and people without children. She is perfect. She is calm, collected, trendy, aware, and she bakes like a food-angel. She is good at all the things that have ever been suggested by a parenting article, MIL, or fashion blogger. Too bad she lives…
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7 Things to look for in a Friend
Friendship is the wine and the coffee for my soul. Doing motherhood without them is like watching a comedy alone (weird, gross, and not all that funny). I don’t need the same kind of friends as I once did. I’m a lot less patient with barelyscratchthesurface small talk . I have enough mind-numbing conversations with…
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Dear Husband, I am with you in good times and bad…
Dear Husband, I am with you when the bills are built up and unpaid and when our shoulders are tense with stress and worry. I am with you when the kids are up sick in the middle of the night, and we brush shoulders as we grab towels and bowls and stroke little warm foreheads.…
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Confession: Anxiety is Exausting
I was reminded today that when suffering from depression or anxiety it is important to set achievable goals. WELL THAT IS ME. SO, I have taken it upon myself to make some meaningful, achievable, goals for 2018. Feel free to steal. 3-4 glasses of wine a week at least (BECAUSE I AM NOT LAZY). One…
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Grieving with the Montecito Mudslide Victims
At 3:50 in the morning last Tuesday I was woken up by an alert on my phone. The rain pounded down so loud that I was shaking, but we were in a safe place and I finally went back to sleep. Because of the Thomas fire we’ve been getting these kind of alerts for a…
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You are the best mom for your kids, and I am the best for mine.
What if you are the best mom there is for your kids, what if I’m the best for mine? What if we really believed that? I remember when our first son was just a baby, I was talking to a seasoned mom of three. I was strung out on new mom anxiety and was stressing…